25 Things I Wish I Knew Before Turning 25
Twenty-five. The year the prefrontal cortex becomes fully formed. The age when a quarter-life crisis often hits. Hard. At that age, there’s so much wisdom to be gleaned from those we love who have already been there. There’s so much I should’ve taken more to heart. As a Filipina immigrant whose life has been full of love, anxiety, triumphs, miracles, and trauma; the greatest lessons have been the ones I’ve lived through.
However, if I could turn back time and give my twentysomething self a helpful list of lessons, this is what it would say. Of course, I’d write it in the form of a love note.
Dear 25 Year-Old Ronni,
Congratulations! We haven’t succumbed to our destructive tendencies. Things got tough there for a while, but now we know that we’re tougher. Life may feel incomplete at this juncture, but there’s so much to look forward to! I can’t wait for you to savor every moment that unfolds before you.
While that happens, here’s a list of things you should remember:
- Be careful with your mind and body because you get to live in them for your entire life, and carelessness will bite you in the ass in a decade.
- Your parents have done their absolute possible best. Love them always.
- Be a friend to the people you love.
- Everything is temporary.
- What you want will change 100 times before you make up your mind, and that’s okay.
- You know how you keep repeating that you’ll never get married? Just you wait!
- That one you thought you couldn’t live without…guess what? They’re gone, and You’re out here LIVING!
- Trauma is an inevitable part of life that requires gentleness, patience, processing, and healing.
- Use those facial serums and SPF 35 or higher.
- You will only learn that you have a good life because of the tough days.
- If someone feels “off” to you, you should trust that because your instincts will never lie to you.
- Allowing yourself to be driven by money is unsustainable; it will never feel enough. Instead, let…