Why did I care so deeply about the survival of a humble house spider? — The fragrant, warm suds overwhelmed my senses as I rinsed my hair under our perfectly tilted showerhead. I was so grateful for the ability to barely raise my right hand above my head, as I’ve been dealing with a shoulder injury that has diminished my capacity more than I’m willing…

Staying in lust with the same person doesn’t have to feel routine or boring, even if they’ve been the only one for years. — I used to tell this joke about monogamy: Every time I’m with only one person at a time, doesn’t that count as being monogamous? I loved being single. Loved with an L-O-V-E. There was something so beautiful about being liberated while freely experiencing whomever I wanted. Commitment feels like a…

I committed the cardinal sin of any relationship: I cheated on him. — We’d been together for nearly half a decade, and I wasn’t even 23 yet. I grew bored with him. The butterflies he once animated within me quietly fluttered away or died, I’m not sure which. I previously attempted to break up with him, but he cried and begged me to…

Behornt. Feral. Seductive. Desirous. Passionate, or just plain ol’ horny: no one warned me about hitting this extended period of sexual ooziness in my 30s. Over the past year or so, my body has brought me to my knees, both figuratively and literally. At the juicy, unsuspecting age of 37…

Creating content from a place of success hits differently. — Writers are some of the most talented people on the planet. Harnessing the energy of words and stringing them into a cohesive succession of sentences that entertain, inform, and inspire, is one of the greatest gifts bestowed upon humans. We are so incredibly lucky to have the time and energy…

More importantly, we’re craving your energy even if we’ve never experienced it before. — You’re a writer, so write. This gorgeous guidance from my beautiful mother was so simple yet overflowing with certainty and encouragement that it has carried me through decades of hesitation. I’m not unique in my uncertainty to step into my talent fully. Our talents are the reasons we have been…

Does NOT mean that I wanna see your penis. — Listen to me: I am happily married. I’m loved up, loved down, and well-sexed all around in my life offline. There’s nothing that anyone possesses outside of my marriage that I want. This includes any images or interactions with your genitals. If you read something I wrote that excited your…

I wrote you a love note, too. — Twenty-five. The year the prefrontal cortex becomes fully formed. The age when a quarter-life crisis often hits. Hard. At that age, there’s so much wisdom to be gleaned from those we love who have already been there. There’s so much I should’ve taken more to heart. …

The hotter, wetter, sloppier, slappier way to communicate… — Remember the first time you experienced the glittering sensation that entails primal attraction? The desperate craving to be consumed with the experience of closeness with another body and mind is a life-altering exchange. There’s nothing quite like the corporeal amalgamation and intimacy that is uniquely reached through sexual intercourse.