Once a Cheater, Not Always a Cheater

I committed the cardinal sin of any relationship: I cheated on him.

Veronica Percy
8 min readNov 21, 2023

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We’d been together for nearly half a decade, and I wasn’t even 23 yet. I grew bored with him. The butterflies he once animated within me quietly fluttered away or died, I’m not sure which. I previously attempted to break up with him, but he cried and begged me to try and make it work. He knew that I was a sucker for his tears and he worked that to his advantage. I relented and we stayed together, but nothing changed in the relationship except for me. I grew apart from him, as most young people do, but the way he poorly attempted to love me stayed the same and I was desperate for a way out. So, I did the unthinkable: I stepped outside of our relationship while I was at a party and I cheated on him.

Ah, Young Love…

I’ve always been in awe of couples who begin their journey together in their teens and manage to grow older together. Loving the 18-year-old version of someone feels like a universe away from loving the 35-year-old version of the same person, and growing together requires both effort and mindful evolution. When young love grows into mature, fulfilling love, that is a rare and gorgeous anomaly.

He was my first everything. I don’t have many regrets in life but I do regret him. I regretted our relationship before it ended, and I didn’t have the nerve or fortitude to stand up for myself and walk away. A part of me wanted it to work because a breakup would have felt like a failure instead of a necessary course correction via uncoupling.

It was interesting to feel trapped while being cageless. Nothing was stopping me from moving forward, away from him. There were so many moments I didn’t feel right and so many instances during which I knew that I couldn’t be my authentic self while occupying that space in his life. I tried to leave but I let him convince me to stay when I should have walked away.

From the little that I knew about romantic love, I understood that ours wasn’t a healthy or happy relationship. It was comfort and laziness that kept us locked in. I did everything I could to keep pushing him away. We had just celebrated our togetherness for six years but were spending less time together. I preferred…

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Veronica Percy

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